To say that the past seven days have been an eye opener would be an under statement. I really enjoyed going without gossiping. In my previous posts I mentioned that it was becoming easier to stay without gossiping. In the past few days I’ve noticed the opposite.
Up until day 4 of this challenge I was feeling very good through out the day and felt annoyed if someone wanted to get me involved in any kind of gossip. On days 5, 6 and 7 I felt inclined to gossip. It was like this strong force urging me to go ahead and gossip. It’s like an addiction! If you are trying to give up chocolate for instance, sometimes all you want is a little piece, that’s all!
I think it might be due to getting frustrated with work and certain people. Also, gossip around me was going overwhelming and it would have taken me back into the vicious circle if I hadn’t relied heavily on my will power. It took a lot of discipline to stay on course but I really enjoyed it. Like trying to give up smoking and still going out for smoke breaks with your smoke buddies. It makes it just a little bit more challenging.
Overall I think this habit is a keeper. I am going to go ahead and adopt this habit. It feels wonderful to live without criticizing and bad mouthing people. Even before I wasn’t that bad but still this is the better me. 
Another side benefit of this challenge is that I have started to treat people differently. If someone on another team makes a mistake, instead of criticizing and complaining, now I understand that they’re humans after all and mistakes happen. Then I just move on. No whining, no complaining, no gossiping!
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What should i do when friends are talking about me, gossiping and not telling me anything?
Hey John,
First of all, how do you know they’re gossiping about you?
I am assuming you know for a fact they are, in that case best thing to do is to confront them. Talk to them face to face. I have had similar situations and no matter how uncomfortable it felt I had to do it.
This way you’ll hear their side of the story as well. And if they’re your real friends (they shouldn’t have been gossiping in the first place but everyone makes mistakes or sometimes bad habits are hard to break) they will apologize to you. Especially if they value your friendship.
If they do not apologize or try to make you feel bad for even talking to them about this issue, then it’s your decision whether or not to keep them as friends.
A lot of times we tend to hold on to old friends just because we’ve known them for a long time. A bad, negative friend can cause a lot of harm in the long term. Friends like these can be emotional draining, sucking all the positive energy out of you.
If your friends do not change, you’re much better off making new friends.
In the end, you are your best friend and you should not let anyone belittle or disrespect you.
Best of luck
It does hurt when friends talk about us. But I guess if on a personal level we try not to gossip ourselves, then maybe people will stop gossiping. It can really hurt self esteem though.
Life is a reflection of ourselves and our attitudes. What we put out comes back to us tenfold. So, you’re definitely right. If we stop gossiping, fewer people will gossip about us.
Also, we’ll become such positive souls that gossip wouldn’t have any effect on us and eventually even the people who continue gossiping about us will get fed up and stop.