http://www.kensray.com/2008/03/results-of-7-day-no-gossiping-challenge/ Self Development Blog Thu, 29 Jul 2010 17:52:01 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 http://www.kensray.com/2008/03/results-of-7-day-no-gossiping-challenge/comment-page-1/#comment-63 Ricky Tue, 17 Jun 2008 00:12:26 +0000 http://www.kensray.com/2008/03/14/results-of-7-day-no-gossiping-challenge/#comment-63 Life is a reflection of ourselves and our attitudes. What we put out comes back to us tenfold. So, you're definitely right. If we stop gossiping, fewer people will gossip about us. Also, we'll become such positive souls that gossip wouldn't have any effect on us and eventually even the people who continue gossiping about us will get fed up and stop. Life is a reflection of ourselves and our attitudes. What we put out comes back to us tenfold. So, you’re definitely right. If we stop gossiping, fewer people will gossip about us.
Also, we’ll become such positive souls that gossip wouldn’t have any effect on us and eventually even the people who continue gossiping about us will get fed up and stop.

]]> http://www.kensray.com/2008/03/results-of-7-day-no-gossiping-challenge/comment-page-1/#comment-62 Terry Mon, 16 Jun 2008 10:09:31 +0000 http://www.kensray.com/2008/03/14/results-of-7-day-no-gossiping-challenge/#comment-62 It does hurt when friends talk about us. But I guess if on a personal level we try not to gossip ourselves, then maybe people will stop gossiping. It can really hurt self esteem though. It does hurt when friends talk about us. But I guess if on a personal level we try not to gossip ourselves, then maybe people will stop gossiping. It can really hurt self esteem though.

]]> http://www.kensray.com/2008/03/results-of-7-day-no-gossiping-challenge/comment-page-1/#comment-57 Ricky Wed, 11 Jun 2008 14:45:12 +0000 http://www.kensray.com/2008/03/14/results-of-7-day-no-gossiping-challenge/#comment-57 Hey John, First of all, how do you know they're gossiping about you? I am assuming you know for a fact they are, in that case best thing to do is to confront them. Talk to them face to face. I have had similar situations and no matter how uncomfortable it felt I had to do it. This way you'll hear their side of the story as well. And if they're your real friends (they shouldn't have been gossiping in the first place but everyone makes mistakes or sometimes bad habits are hard to break) they will apologize to you. Especially if they value your friendship. If they do not apologize or try to make you feel bad for even talking to them about this issue, then it's your decision whether or not to keep them as friends. A lot of times we tend to hold on to old friends just because we've known them for a long time. A bad, negative friend can cause a lot of harm in the long term. Friends like these can be emotional draining, sucking all the positive energy out of you. If your friends do not change, you're much better off making new friends. In the end, you are your best friend and you should not let anyone belittle or disrespect you. Best of luck Hey John,
First of all, how do you know they’re gossiping about you?
I am assuming you know for a fact they are, in that case best thing to do is to confront them. Talk to them face to face. I have had similar situations and no matter how uncomfortable it felt I had to do it.
This way you’ll hear their side of the story as well. And if they’re your real friends (they shouldn’t have been gossiping in the first place but everyone makes mistakes or sometimes bad habits are hard to break) they will apologize to you. Especially if they value your friendship.
If they do not apologize or try to make you feel bad for even talking to them about this issue, then it’s your decision whether or not to keep them as friends.
A lot of times we tend to hold on to old friends just because we’ve known them for a long time. A bad, negative friend can cause a lot of harm in the long term. Friends like these can be emotional draining, sucking all the positive energy out of you.
If your friends do not change, you’re much better off making new friends.
In the end, you are your best friend and you should not let anyone belittle or disrespect you.
Best of luck

]]> http://www.kensray.com/2008/03/results-of-7-day-no-gossiping-challenge/comment-page-1/#comment-31 John Kurt Tue, 10 Jun 2008 04:15:38 +0000 http://www.kensray.com/2008/03/14/results-of-7-day-no-gossiping-challenge/#comment-31 What should i do when friends are talking about me, gossiping and not telling me anything? What should i do when friends are talking about me, gossiping and not telling me anything?

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