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Are you giving up on your goals?

Filed Under Goals, Motivation 

Table of contents for Goals

  1. Are you giving up on your goals?
  2. Purpose behind your goal

Have you ever started working towards some goal with great enthusiasm but quit after a few weeks? Why is that?

If you were that enthusiastic about a goal what happened with in a few weeks to de-motivate you? Have you learned so much about your goal and why it’s a completely wrong goal for you in such a short time?

I’ve found many reasons that one can quit working towards their goal:

  1. Life gets in the way; you get too busy with day to day activities such as cleaning dishes, grocery, laundry, checking email 20 times a day, drinking coffee, watching tv, smoke breaks and so on
  2. Someone says something negative about your goal; this one is one of the worst ones - that’s why you shouldn’t tell too many people about your goal, just show it to them once you’ve achieved it; tell only the people who’re going to support you
  3. It seems too hard
  4. It is too much of a stretch for your present state
  5. It is too much of a stretch mentally
  6. You have negative beliefs that hold you back
  7. Fear of success
  8. Fear of failure
  9. Reality is kicking in; achieving this goal’s going to require far more effort than you had thought
  10. You are focusing too much on the means to the goal and not the goal itself
  11. You can not imagine how you will possibly achieve this goal; with your current experience you can not see any way of achieving this goal
  12. You are moving on to different goals
  13. You are moving on to higher goals than the present one
  14. You have a habit of starting a goal and then moving on to another one without finishing/achieving the first one
  15. You have a habit of not finishing what you start

As you can see there are a lot of reasons that help us quit before accomplishing what we had set out to accomplish. A lot of the ones above seem quite related to each other and that’s because they are. I just wanted to break them down because sometimes unless we see exactly what we’re feeling or thinking, it just doesn’t click with us.

The main point is that what we really wanted to achieve, we have given up on it!! Everything else is an excuse. There is one exception and that’s #13. Sometimes when you start working towards a goal you progress so fast that you completely get bigger than your goal.

An example: you have a goal of earning $500/mnth in passive income through blogging. You start working towards it and at first nothing is happening so you keep on working and working. During that time you realize that you actually enjoy the work you’re doing and like the fact that you’re reaching out to so many people. So, now your mind shifts from earning $500/mnth to helping so many people.  This is what I call giving up your goal for a higher purpose/goal.

Eventually all of your work starts to pay off and instead of $500/mnth you start making $1000/mnth because if you provide genuine value you are bound to be compensated.

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2 Responses to “Are you giving up on your goals?”

  1. Terry on August 14th, 2008 4:40 pm

    Wow…a very insightful post. I’m glad that you wrote this.

  2. Ricky on September 6th, 2008 12:59 pm

    Yeah, I find it all too easy to give up on our goals.

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