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Over the past few years I’ve tried various different therapies for depression. Here are my experiences:

Family doctor – My family doctor never thought there was anything wrong with me. I had to try repeatedly to get a referral to see a therapist/psychiatrist. He kept saying “don’t worry, it’s just stress! Everyone has stress these days, it’s no big deal!”

Psychiatrists – I saw a few different ones. Few of them saw nothing wrong with me as I seemed to be knowledgeable about what might be causing me stress and what I could about it. They said “you know what to do, you don’t need anything, and you’ll be fine!” While one suggested I could try to go on medication which I refused at that time.

Talk therapy – Quite effective. I worked with a good therapist and she knew just the right questions to ask me to make me think deeper about my issues. By just talking with someone who’s not going to judge can be very comforting in itself.

Only thing is that it can easily make you dependent. Plus those were one hour sessions and she would always be looking at her watch to keep track of time so I never really felt comfortable opening up as I would always be thinking of trying to summarize every thing so it could fit in that one hour session.

Eft – I mentioned in a previous article about how I cured my lower back pain using EFT. After that I worked with an EFT practitioner for some time to resolve a lot of deeper issues. Even though she thought everything was ok, working with her actually did not help directly. She was very good practitioner and a good person but I think the problem arose because she tried to use techniques of EFT without really taking into account my background.

After we had stopped the sessions I continued with EFT for another six months at least and for 1-2 hours every single day so I got quite knowledgeable in applying EFT. Every time something negative happened in my life, I would just apply EFT and get rid of the negative association to that event. This enabled me to look objectively at the situation and thus learn from it but overall it did not help me resolve deeper issues.

I eventually stopped using it so much when I started using NLP.

NLP – I worked with a highly qualified NLP practitioner. He was highly recommended and had done a lot of good in the community using NLP. He had helped a lot of people deal with PTSD (post traumatic stress disorder) and not to mention a whole lot of other disorders and phobias very successfully.

We went through really extensive NLP sessions. He assured me that I did not need to remember specific events in order to deal with them with NLP. Interesting thing is that nothing worked. We went through a lot of issues, with many different NLP techniques, but not a single one of them went away. So, that was kind of disappointing.

Thus, I found both NLP and EFT to be very good at dissolving negative feelings if I could remember specific events. They’re both relatively easy to learn and use. They’re also very good at curing phobias as you know specifically what it is that’s causing you discomfort.

On the same note, I have found that unless you can get to the core issues, it’s very hard to totally resolve an issue with them.

With EFT, the set up phrases and phrases that are recommended to be used while tapping may not work for everyone either. Problem is similar to problems with using affirmations, as I mentioned in my previous article.

So, there you have it. Please keep in mind that every single one of these therapies has actually helped a lot of people. Just because I didn’t find help using them doesn’t mean they don’t work.

This is just my experience and they did not help me. Also, I could have tried going to different people with in the same field but I was fed up with it all.

Still, I actually learned a lot about myself, from each of these different forms of therapies, so these experiences were not totally wasted.

As I mentioned in my last post I was feeling quite bad about my debt. I was going to try various techniques to try and get myself out of that negative emotional state.

EFT

I tried EFT and that seemed to help a little. I tried it for quite some time and the negativity seemed to go down quite a bit. One way to see if EFT is working is you’ll start to feel like a lot of steam exiting your body. Almost like stress, or negative emotions are separate entities which seem to be exiting your body.

Hmm… sorta like exorcism!

Even after 15-20 minutes of EFT I was still feeling bad. The negative emotions had subsided but it was easy for them to come back so I thought of trying something else.

Self Conversation

This is a process that also has helped me considerably from time to time. It’s just a form of talk to yourself but out loud. You have a conversation with yourself out loud. One side asks questions while the other side answers.

So, I started talking. I asked myself what the issue was and I also answered to myself about the issue. Main problem was that a lot of my friends who I went to school with or even I met afterwards seemed to be doing quite well. They all seemed to be earning good money and are married and well settled and over all happy.

While I was still struggling with debt and how it seemed to be a never ending vicious circle. I earn, I pay debt off a little bit and something happens and debt goes up even more and so on.

Then I reminded myself about the law of attraction. How whatever I focus on comes to me, especially if a lot of emotion is involved. I reminded myself of my vibration and how I was in perfect vibration to attract even more debt and other bad things in my life.

I asked myself what I wanted and it turned out that I wanted to be totally debt free. Then I asked myself what is needed for me to attract that in my life? I answered that I needed to be in a different vibration all together than I was in right now. So, if I really wanted to be out of debt and financially stable and secure, I had to change my current vibration so I could start attracting that in my life.

I talked like this with myself for quite a while but in the end I was feeling much better. I saw the hope and I was out of my gloomy state! I had realized that I was responsible for getting me in this state and I was also responsible for getting myself out.

I also realized that I knew enough about the law of attraction that I definitely could get myself out of this state. Wherever I am is the result of my past thinking/vibrations but what happens in future can be altered by altering the way I think, feel, vibrate right now.

Then I slept peacefully!

I think I let myself feel bad about my debt a little too long now. In my previous post, I mentioned how I had a talk with my friend about my debt. I had started to feel bad afterwards. I let myself feel like that just to observe what was happening to me.

Now, it’s been quite a few hours and I still feel pretty bad. Whenever I feel bad about money, I feel like I’m really tired, along with the out of breath feeling I mentioned previously. All I want to do then is to go to bed and rest. I do not have any energy then either. It’s one of the worst feelings that I’ve felt and it’s stayed with me no matter what I do to take care of it.

NLP and EFT

I’ve tried NLP and EFT therapy with some successful therapists but nothing helped. These were the people who had actually helped war veterans with post traumatic stress disorder and so on but it didn’t seem to work with me. Actually, it did not even help me 1%. Weird!

But both of these methods have helped me when I’ve used them by myself. I guess because I know myself better so I could change them to fit me.

I’ll talk more about both of these techniques in a later post. So far I feel pretty bad.

I am going to try a few things to make myself feel a little better. I’ll let you know how it goes.

I’ve tried some self-talk but that didn’t seem to work. Let’s see…